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My Infertility Journey started in April of 2013 when I got married. I never knew it was difficult to get pregnant, till after one year of no conception nor miscarriage. I couldn’t visit the hospital as frequently as I would have liked due to funds so I was busy taking any recommended drugs and traditional medicine available till 2015. Someone introduced Clomid to me due to its ability to boost ovulation and I felt ovulation was the problem even though i had regular menses. I bought and took it without a doctor’s prescription and it really affected me by causing irregular periods. I decided to visit the General hospital. I did an Hsg test and hormone profile test, they revealed that one of the fallopian tubes was blocked. I was assured that I can still conceive with one tube even though there is only a 50% chance. I did hydrotubation (flushing of the tubes with antibiotics) and continued to buy different supplements, took injections, scans but in all my menstruation refused to be regular again, unless I take drugs before it comes out. I have taken several other medicines to regulate my period, which has proved abortive. Doctors I have met only give primolut-N and any other contraceptive plus injection which doesn’t treat it permanently. I’m already 10 years into the marriage without a child, 38 years old and already losing the hope of having a child of my own.

My journey started in 2015. Everything was fine with my husband and i. HSG showed no block tubes, no infection, no fibroid yet there is unexplained infertility. We resorted to herbal medicine and the thing affected my husband’s sperm. In 2018 we had our first IVF, which later failed with so much bleeding that lasted for months. In 2020 I did a laparoscopy but nothing was wrong with me. We tried IUI, but it failed again. In 2022, I was already 41 years old, I tried IVF. Doctors encouraged me to use donor eggs but I told him I always ovulate and will use my own and it was successful!! 2 embryos transferred…scan said a boy and a girl. I was over the moon. But the devil struck, he took away my girl but today, I have my son with me. We are one month old today. This journey is not an easy one. Keep trying ladies, we all are going to testify soon. As I am happy today, you all will be happy soon. May God wipe away all your tears soon.

This journey is truly not an easy one. I got married in April 2017 traditionally. On that day, I had my period and thought that would be the last since I was going to be pregnant. I never knew what was ahead. After two years with no sign of pregnancy, we decided to have our white wedding hoping that with faith, God would show us mercy. This was in 2019. Yet, my period was still punctual. We decided to visit the hospital, did a series of tests and the doctor asked if I could afford an IVF since that was the only option because my husband was diagnosed with azoospermia. We could not afford it as my husband’s business was no longer moving as it did before and I was a teacher with an ND certificate. There was a time we were advised here on this platform not to lose ourselves but rather use this waiting period to build ourselves. So, I registered for sandwich program in Education at least to have a better certificate, a better salary and save money for the IVF. Don’t know how long it will take but I still believe in miracles. I have visited so many herbal homes and taken so many concoctions. My husband has been very supportive. I truly hope and pray that everyone of us here will carry our bundles of joy soon and come for testimony, Amen.

My fertility Journey started in December 2010. When I got married, I was 27 years old. I got married as a virgin and never thought I would find myself on this journey. My thought was that once you have sex, you would get pregnant. 3 years into the marriage when nothing happened, I realised there was a problem. In 2011, I started having irregular periods. I was naive and didn’t know what it meant until 2013 when we visited a gynaecologist who treated my husband and I for infection. He placed me on clomid and some vitamins and then, I got pregnant but miscarried after 12 weeks due to fibroids, according to my doctor. I had fibroids surgery in 2014 and was successful. In 2015 we opted for IUI because my husband just got a new job which took him away from where we stayed but the IUI failed. I started visiting my husband at his new place and in 2016, I got pregnant but it was a blighted ovum. it was evacuated and the journey started again. in 2017, I met another gynaecologist who asked me to do laparoscopy and some test which came out good other than some tiny fibroids that were seen. So, he placed me on clomid then I travelled to meet husband and God heard our prayers. I got pregnant with twins but at 15 weeks, I miscarried again. I cried my eyes out and almost died when the placenta refused to come out but God’s mercies said no. In 2018, nothing happened because I was emotionally down then we planned to try IVF because husband and I barely have the time to see each other due to the nature of our jobs and so in 2019, we did IVF and was successful with twins but at 6 weeks, I started spotting and was placed on bed rest but at 8 weeks I miscarried them. We were drained financially to go for any treatment. in december 2020, I got pregnant again and ended in a blighted ovum. I was shattered but I kept moving on and this was possible because I have a very supportive husband. So, after all the stress my gynaecologist told me that anytime I get pregnant again he would do a cervical cerclage for me and so I tried again. Meanwhile, I’m always on progesterone anytime I am pregnant and so in 2021, I got pregnant and at 13 weeks I went for my second scan in preparation for the cervical cerclage. my baby was fine I was booked for cerclage 2 days after, I was on the theatre bed in preparation for cerclage when I expelled my baby. I wasn’t aware because I had already been put to sleep. it was when I regained consciousness that I noticed I was bleeding and then my doctor told me what happened. I was sad and almost ran mad but what could I do? I kept trusting in God and throughout 2022 I didn’t try anything. I was just living my life i didn’t even visit my husband until January 2023 and we tried again and tested positive in early last month (march) and I went for scan in April 3 I was told no fetal heartbeat is seen that I should come back in the next 2 weeks am hoping on God to perfect his miracle in my life. I remember a day I was playing with my colleague baby in the office she was crying and was trying to pet her. You should have seen how her mother collected her baby from me. I cried; although she later came to apologise. Even my husband’s family don’t talk to me again because they feel im wasting their brother’s time but thank God for my husband who stood by me…. INFERTILITY is a bastard and not anybody’s mate. I don’t wish it on my worst enemy. I pray that God will bless all TTC mothers and grant us our heart’s desire in Jesus Name. Thanks.

Good evening mothers and mothers to be, I didn’t want to share my story but I have been going through what others are sharing so I picked courage with tears in my heart to share mine. I got married in 2013 without an issue but since then, it has been from one hospital to another. they diagnosed fibroids in me which I removed in 2015, thinking that I would take in after that but there’s been nothing. Then we continued visiting the hospital. They diagnosed that my husband has low sperm count and I have fibroids again. What hurts me the most is that my husband has abandoned me for another woman. But I pray that God will help me and see me through this painful experience.

I got married in 2004. My life was hell. My husband would hit me every now and then. l got pregnant in 2005 June, delivered my baby on the 25th of March but she was a stillbirth. i was blinded by love and tried to endure the abusive marriage. In 2010, however, I left the marriage and got remarried in 2016. But now, I tried every recipe posted here to no remedy. I’m tired. I’ve tried my best. I’ll be 36 soon.

I got married in 2011 and was pregnant before the wedding. I lost that pregnancy at 24 weeks. I was pained but I felt I was going to get pregnant again since i was still young. I didn’t know what journey I was about to start. after that I took in again around that same 2011 till 2015 with painful miscarriages all within 12 weeks 4 different times. I was almost going mad but my husband and everyone around me was there for me. Then the problems started, pregnancy didn’t show again because I told God not to give me any child that won’t stay. my period would cease for almost 8 months, I was running from one hospital to another, herbal home to another, it would show for 3 months and disappear again. I also visited prayer houses too, I treated infections too, high prolactin and different hormonal imbalance and God came through for me and I met a doctor who prescribed some drugs for me and my period came back. I again got pregnant in 2019 and I lost it and the cause of it no doctor could pinpoint because at that time the pregnancies were not up to 12 weeks for cerclage to be carried out. Then in 2021, I took in and lost it again after 21 weeks and 5 days, we didn’t do cerclage because according to the scan, my cervix is okay but I had gestational diabetes and was placed on a diet. I also took progesterone injections for 8 weeks, and, after that, I was referred to a teaching hospital where all kinds of tests were carried out to know the cause. These tests were pricey but my husband didn’t mind, we did them all. Then last year which was 2022, I took in around June and lost it again at 22weeks and 3days, I was almost running mad because I did cerclage this time and I was monitored very closely. I was on all kinds of drugs to boost my progesterone, my rhesus is positive, I had gestational diabetes too which was monitored religiously… I am tired, miscarriage is draining me, I am even scared of sleeping with my husband after 8 painful miscarriages, it’s not even a matter of not conceiving but it’s to stay for me, I will be 39 this month.

After one year anniversary, as pregnancy was not forthcoming, we decided to visit a gynaecologist who wrote some test for us to do, Mine came out and all was ok, hubby’s own came out and it was diagnosed Azoospermia, I asked the doc what it meant and he said it meant No sperm at all to impregnate me. I asked the doc again, where all the sperm went off to. He then placed hubby in medication ad also told us that the only solution is for us to go for IVF or IUI. We both cried all through that day. After hearing that, we prayed, fasted, sowed seeds and went for different programs, hoping on God for a miracle…as the miracle was not forthcoming naturally, 2021 we saved and went for IUI with donor sperm. Actually, God did a miracle after the two-week wait. We went to the hospital and it was confirmed positive for the first time in our marriage. everyone in that clinic that day rejoiced with me…the pregnancy journey began to 21 weeks. I was having a very severe back pain, my hubby rushed me to the hospital, getting there, I was placed on bed rest, was there for one week and then discharged…. but, before the discharge, I was told that the back pain was as a result of fibroid, so I was given medications. In a week, the pain started again, was rushed back to the hospital, they gave me injections to subside the pain, but it didn’t work. Before I knew it, I was having a serious contraction. They took me to the delivery room, immediately, the water broke and the baby boy came out at 21weeks. I cried so bitterly because the journey was cut short. I stayed at the hospital for weeks again and was discharged, was told to wait till after 3 months before the removal of the fibroid. Jan 2022, went to hospital for the removal. After the removal, I was told to wait till 6 months before trying again. After the 6th month, we went for another IUI, waited for two weeks again, it was confirmed urine negative but blood slightly positive, was told to wait for another two weeks again. In the two weeks wait, I was spotting and in the cause of the spotting, I did a test again but both showed Negative. We waited again and saved for IVF; we used all our life savings on it. In Nov 2022, we resumed clinic again to start our IVF procedure believing God that this time around, it would work according to a prophesy. Dec 2022, I went for the implantation and waited for two weeks again; I got to the clinic, they ran a test, but it came out Negative, I cried again because that was our life savings. During the festive period, we were really sad, because there was no money again to continue this journey. Just hoping on God every new day for a miracle. Let His will be Done.